Daughter and Father Adventure

My Father is a true romantic. He said today "I have always lived in a fantasy world." This has not been evident to me in my thinking about him as he was raising a family. As a teenager, I remember asking him why he married Mom. He said, "I got tired of washing my own socks." He said this kiddingly. But as a young person I was devastated. I wanted a romantic story of falling in love and not being able to live with out my Mother.

Courting and marrying Helen, my step mother, in 2000 after my Mother's death, was a romantic episode for him. He said at the time, "I feel like I am 16 again."

I have work long and hard to rid myself of romantic notions. Pinning my hope on a significant other has not been satisfactory in my experience. But then what is romance?

Closeness seem to be a more tangible objective. Closeness can be found in so many more relationships. I want to be with people in all our humanness. I want to learn to show myself more and to work through what maybe hard about that.